Let it out brehs :to:

I've been in therapy the past two weeks, and just letting out all the anger, pain, sadness has been great.

The peace, the calm, no longer holding onto to past memories that were clinging me down.

Ever since my car accident in January where I was a few seconds away from drowning and losing my life, I have made tremendous changes. I'm almost there at the place I want to be.

How to answer when she brings up the sob Stories

As men we have all been there.......on a date and then the exes are brought up. "All my exes have cheated one", "I've been so hurt so bad in the past", "Men have just used and treated me bad", "my ex was such a ass hole". And deep down inside you think how could a man treat this beautiful specimen so horrible, as you may utter such simp phrases such as I would never do that as your fist clenches in anger at how men could be so bastardly.


Well let's dig deeper into these phrases why not? and how to answer them.

"All my exes have cheated one"

A) Ah the old golden one,  this is when you should ask  and did you dump him?  More than not they took him back time after time. Once you hear that, she is not girlfriend material. A woman who takes back is a cheater has low self esteem and poor judgment.

B)  If all her exes have cheated on her, then that is a whole bunch of men who view her as a person who is not worthy of commitment.

C) If all her exes have cheated on her, then she keeps picking the same type of men over and over. And if you are a man of value, a man with traits of loyalty and faithfulness then this will not last.

"I've been so hurt so bad in the past"

Really? And who hasn't?  I've been cheated on twice, manipulated, bank accounts drained, mocked, had to face the embarrassment of cancelling a 200 party wedding 6 months before the date, but you don't see me bringing this up right.   This same women spewing how she has been hurt so bad in the past has carved up more men than a cannibal.  Last date I went on and a chick brought this up, I came right back with the "so how many men have you hurt so bad in the past"  

"Men have just used and treated me bad"

This is when you can bring up the    Gasp, How about choosing better men?   

If you dig deeper you will soon realize the men that just used her and treated so bad, are the men she opened her legs for on the first night, the men who anyone can tell are players, the men she meets at bars and clubs, the men with a bunch of baby mommas, but because there 6 feet tall, brolic, and drive a sporty couple  she keeps falling and falling for it.

"my ex was such a ass hole"

This is one of my favourites. He was such a asshole but you stayed with him for months even years, he was such a asshole but you loved him, had sex with him, swallowed his cum.

TL;DR  DATE BETTER MEN WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!

How to get over your ex

What do I know about getting over someone you scoff?
Well take it from someone who was less than 6 months away from marriage, before he had to end a relationship. Take it from a man who wallowed in grief and depression for many years.
Take it from a man who had to witness 1 of the 2 women he ever loved, send him a wedding invitation in the mail to mock him some more.
So I know a thing or two about getting over a ex and I'll share them with you.

1. Say Nothing or be very concise.

A) If a chick dumps you through text message say nothing.B) If it's over the phone just say ok and I gotta go.c) if its face to face  stay calm and slowly make your exit.

Why?  Keep your emotions in check, the less you say the less of anything you say or do that you will regret later will happen.
Keeping your dignity is one of the biggest and best things you can do. Years later I still kick myself over writing a letter and sending it to a girl I was dating who dumped me. It will also make her ponder why isn't he crying, screaming, begging, getting angry, asking why etc.

2. Don't contact her ever again.

Everyone knows of the no contact rule and trust me it works, by not contacting her, fishing on facebook, twitter, instagram etc. for info. She will slowly but surely get smaller and smaller in your mind.  I've been there a ex on my mind it seems 24/7, first thing when I wake up in the morning and the last thing at night. But by instilling No Contact she slowly started to disappear as every day went on. 

3. Don't be friends with the ex

Exes only want to be friends to relieve their guilt, keep you as a backup in case the new dude doesn't work out and/or string you along to mess with your emotions. I was friends with an ex once and it set me back like almost 5 years of my life because emotions I thought were dead kept reappearing, just dead it cut the cord go your separate ways.

4. Go hardcore and disappear 

 I'm the type of person if the relationship was somewhat substantial to change my number so my heart ain't racing every time I get a text, or a phone call. To  change my email, disable any social networking until I'm healed. From my personal experience this is the quickest and best way,  there is zero chance if you take these steps of her contacting you which kills all the disgusting disease known as hope.  I remember after a breakup I would constantly check my phone I did not want my ex to contact to me but a tiny part I guess would not have minded the ego boost if she cracked and text me or called. When I finally changed my number the release I felt was overwhelming.    As for social networking, I remember I changed my number but a ex hit me up through facebook writing me a message begging for another chance.

5.Remove any pictures 

Yep remove all pictures of you two you may have hanging around, nothing is worse than seeing a picture of you and your ex smiling by your bedside etc.  Again if you can go hardcore, throw all those pictures in the trash, cut the cord now. This goes as well for deleting all pictures of your ex on your computer, yes even the nudes ones and any sex videos you made, now you can always put them on a usb and store it if you must, but why look at the past?

6.  Let your emotions out.

As men we keep stuff inside, but trust me nothing is better than just venting whether it's writing on a piece of paper how you feel, talking to someone who has your back, even going to therapy. Let all that hate, angry, sadness, pain out.  Make sure not to her though, NEVER LET YOUR EX KNOW YOUR EMOTIONS.

7. Travel

Travelling saved me when I was at my lowest point, sulking locked up in my room.  A week away did wonders, being surrounded by beautiful women by the beach without any worries in the world opens your eyes and realize you'll be OK. That it's a big world out there with billions of women and the release you feel from just relaxing enjoying life is great.

8. Realize your ex isn't all that

As a man who has dated models, and beautiful women of different ethnicities sometimes the "damn will I ever get another broad that beautiful again " thoughts hit. Realize you did it once and you can do it again, hell there are hundreds of millions of women out there who look better than your ex if all you care about is looks, and there are tons of other women out there who will be much more compatible, so don't stress it at all. I remember after  I broke up with my ex fiance I was like damn, she was so beautiful, she never wore makeup, barely dressed up but wherever she would go jaws would just drop would I ever get that again.  I mean I wasn't even thinking of how much of a leech, conniving, horrible person my ex was to me just that she was the most beautiful girl in the world (in my eyes), and I'll never be that "lucky again".  It's amazing how your ex could be straight horrible, offering nothing, in your mind you wished many times you could just go your separate ways. But once you are broken up your mind plays tricks on you and suddenly she is a 10/10. Realize your ex ain't that special, your mind is a powerful tool that is playing tricks on you.

9. Hit up relationship forums and read stories worse than yours!! 

Wow you sick bastard!!,  Yup,   you think you got it bad because your ex dumped you, or you found out your ex cheated, or you dumped her and your struggling why did I do that?  Just hit up any relationship forum and read stories of 20 year marriages broken up, or 7 year relationships ended. Realize hey there are others going through this, my situation is not that special, I will get over this. And at least I wasn't married with 2 kids and now paying alimony and child support.

10. Learn from your Mistakes

Learning from your mistakes is key, maybe you didn't follow your gut. I remember in two relationships in my life, I had this feeling and ran into red flags early on when I should have walked away, but the sex was good, they were hot , I didn't want to hurt their feelings so I said screwed it, fell for them and then ended up getting burnt in the end.This taught me in future relationships when I see red flags, or get a feeling to start my engine and get out of there. Remember in all your past relationships the common denominator is YOU!!!

Summing it up BREHS!!!

It's up to you, how long you want to live and battle with the pain. Sad thing is most exes only want you back when you finally reach the point of no longer caring or wanting them back. I say

Only a Few People Truly Care about You

I remember being my young self, popularity at a all time high. People hitting me up constantly, wanting to hang out and spend time with me.
Calling me friend, compadre, brother, talking how they have my back. Years later I look back and ponder where are these folks now? Where are the folks who said
they would have my back through thick and thin? Where are the females who said they loved me and couldn't live without me?  They are out there and could care one iota about you.

The thing many people fail to realize is that most people don't have your back, most people would love to see you fail. Most people will ride for you when the money is coming in, your car is running, your life is going great, but once the struggles pop up they are gone.  It's amazing that the few people that actually do care for you, that you probably won't recognize it and treat them like garbage.

I've been guilty of this as a young man who did not know the ways. 

A Girl Named M

Years ago when I was young, there was this girl M.  M was not the most attractive girl out there, but M had a heart of gold. M would call me and text me every day, M would ask how I'm doing, M would cook me little treats and M would genuinely take interest in me and the goals I wanted to accomplish in life.

M was a singer and would invite me out to watch her sing at her youth group, M would invite me out to family gatherings. If I needed a kidney M would have probably given it to me, M was there for me in my worst days and in my best days, however I treated M like garbage.

I took advantage of M's kindness.  I started dating someone and even then I knew it hurt M, but she was still super nice to me. It wasn't until the girl I was dating, gave me a ultimatum of her or M. I was such a simp and addicted to beauty that I chose her and cut off M. 

It's been about 9 years since I've talked to or seen M, however I still remember the kindness and the heart of Gold. 

It's kind of amazing/sad that all the qualities now that I would want in a wife if I were to ever get married brehs M had. Even almost a decade later, all the women I have canoodled and cavorted with there is only one woman I could truly say cared for me and that was M.  

Years ago I found M on facebook, she's married now with a few kids and living in a south american country making a difference in people's lives.   

Don't be guilty of doing this, remember when you down and out the few people who were actually there. The few people who encouraged you, helped you out, lent a ear, even if you never showed appreciation they still stucked by you.

Don't Cheat Brehs

I have experienced the high and lows when it comes to dealing with women.

One of the lowest of the low feelings that can break any man is being cheated on. I've been cheated on twice in my lifetime (that I know off), and although it was a horrible experience, it taught me valuable lessons in life that I will touch on later in this post.

Well everyone has misconceptions about cheating, it does not matter how great you are as a person, how great you treated your partner, how much money you have, the car you drive it can happen to you.

The First Time

The first time I was cheated on I was young and dumb. At that age I thought I knew everything, I was innocent and full of trust and never in my wildest dreams could I think of myself ever been played like those
poor saps you see.

The first time I never thought about it all, when she finally told me that she did I couldn't believe it. I went from anger to sadness to having this pit in my belly. I could not eat, there was not one thing I wanted to do,
my only haven was when I fell asleep as my mind wasn't clouded with painful thoughts then. You think about what you did, could I have done this better or that better when in reality nothing would have changed the outcome.
You think about all the signs you may have missed, how you were a idiot for getting played and start blaming yourself even though you did nothing wrong.  Finally with time you get over it but do you really? more on this later.

The Second Time.

The second time I was cheated on was thankfully not worse than the first.  It still hurt, I still got that bottomless gut feeling, still were clouded with thoughts of pain, but I found out on my own this time.
I had my doubts as she was always talking about her ex and I was like oh really, so I had a logger on my pc and when she used it I got access to her email and fb. And what did I see?  A hidden second fb, messages to her ex, emails to her ex.
The same ex who was so "horrible", that she "hated", yup I was angry in a fit of rage. Pain, angry, and sadness is a horrible mix but thanks to my first experience I was able to exit this situation stronger than I have ever been.

Did being cheated on change me?

Wholeheartedly, you realize you can trust no one. Both women who cheated on me told me they loved me, that they would never cheat, that cheaters disgust them. That they were cheated on in the past and it hurt them so much.  And yet these women
knowing the pain they went to decided to selfishly cheat on me and inflict that hurt and pain on me all for their greed. As a person I can truthfully stand up and say I will never cheat, I have morals and will always remain faithful.

So are you saying don't trust any women?

Pretty much

But every relationship is built on trust, without you have nothing?

There is a quote "trust but verify", and I take it like this, you trust only as much as you can verify, whether it's with a key logger, other forms of snooping etc., I've had exes tell me straight to my face how they love me and care for me and can't wait to get married etc., while 5 minutes before hand they are emailing their ex bf how much they miss him and how great last night was.

So it's better to remain single, don't become emotionally invested and casually date?

Yup pretty much

I think your jaded and bitter, you have to let go of the pain

haha, not jaded or bitter nor am I experiencing pain, the truth upsets those locked into the matrix.


In this day and age with a picture thrown on  a website and a click of a mouse, a women can find someone richer than you, that looks better than you, that says sweeter things than you like that, if you want to trust then go right ahead, and while your at it.... get married brehs

What to look for when choosing a wife

How to choose a good wife

Yes I do rail against marriage etc., but I do know there is a large segment still in the matrix that still will get married (breh's), so what should you guys look for in a wife?

Well here it goes, a long list that if I were to ever get married these are the requirements and what I do, to give my undying love and commitment.

1. Is she Healthy, and if she can have children.

a) This is very important to me, you can get tests nowadays that can look at your genes and tell if you are at a high risk to develop certain type of cancers, dementia, alzheimer etc.
But but i love her, yeah but let's say she has a strain that leads to ALS or early symptoms, do you love her enough to be there when she is stricken in a wheelchair, can't communicate and needs you to wait on her hand and foot for the rest of her life?

b) Can she have children......you see it couples married for year and years, trying to have a child but the results are not happening, it's important to make sure that if you want children that your wife doesn't have a scarred womb etc., because one of the major reasons men get married is to have children of their own.

2. Is she from a strong loving family.

A woman from a strong loving family knows what makes a family, knows the sacrifices her dad and mom made. The fights how they stayed together, how important communication is, the ups and downs of marriages and not to bail when in a rut. As well they were brought up in a loving environment and actually know the meaning of love.

Compared to a woman from a broken family, or raised by a single mom. Hasn't seen what makes a family, hasn't seen the strong bond and love between a dad and a mom, how to keep a healthy relationships etc.  Marrying a broad from a broken family you are headed for disaster.

3. Dig into her past.

Yes dig into her past, find out everything. If you were to buy a car, a house you would want to know the history of it. If the car has been in a accident, if the house was a grow up. So why would you not dig extremely deep and find out everything whether it hurts you or not about the women you want to spend your life with.
I would go as far as to hire a private investigator let him tail her for a few weeks or a month, let him dig into her history, find out her credit rating, find out if she has a criminal record, find out about her exes, her old places of employment EVERYTHING.
Nothing can be worse than marrying a women then finding out she owes 100,000, has trouble keeping a job, or gasp is cheating on you, I would take these steps and more.

4. No prior kids

There are many reasons for this and I will try to go through all of them

a) A woman with a child who is not married to me shows carelessness. I do not care that the rates are so high with children born out of wedlock, as a man would this be the type of women you want to marry? A women who had a child out of wedlock who made a horrible choice, is that what you want to wake up every day for the rest of your life to?
Is that who you would trust your finances with? your home with?  be careful brehs

b) Instead of just being you and her growing in love together, travelling together, enjoying life together. It becomes you, her, baby daddy, and her child.  Great you already have a 4 person family and drama every day till you croak.

c)  Why save her?  There are millions and millions of single childless women out there, don't give up your happiness for baggage.

5. Don't concentrate on looks, concentrate on what she offers.

This is very important, ever seen a chick's  mom and your like eek how did she ever produce a daughter that looks so beautiful, then you look around their house and you see a wedding picture, and your like wow that looks exactly like my girlfriend. Because that's how it goes, women depreciate in looks very fast, just because everything is great now doesn't mean in 5-10-15 years or after kids she will look just as dashing.
So ask yourself this, if your only wifing, ringing, marrying this girl because shes a 10/10  what if she falls off, what if she can't lose the baby weight, what if she chops off her hair and everything starts to sag will you still be around? That's why you have to concentrate on more than looks, how is her personality, how does she treat others, does she nag a lot. Remember you will be stuck with her for the rest of your life, choose wisely.

6. Does she submit to you in your relationship

You are the man and the head of the household, a woman who will not realize this and try to test you and think she is in charge will make a horrible horrible wife.

7. Make sure she is 24-28

24-28 is the age range your wife should be around, not to young and not to old. Marry to young and get hit with the "im sorry but i was so young, i did not get to do everything I wanted", to old like 30, 31, 32 you are just the 2 bdrm bungalow for 110k on the outskirts of the city, aka the starter husband. 24-28 you get a women in her prime, whose graduated and has previous experience in relationships.

8. Make sure your family approves of her as a person.

Sometimes you get so caught up in love etc. that you don't see all the red flags and flaws those who really care about (your family) see. From my own observations, many times when the family doesn't approve not including race or religion the marriage will end in divorce.

9. Don't be unequally yoked.

What I mean if she is Jewish and you are christian your ideologies will clash. If she is a atheist and you are a christian, if she is even semi religious and you are hardcore again the clashes will destroy your marriage.

10. Willing to sign a pre-nup

but I'm broke with only a minimum wage job,  so are you telling me your going to broke and working a minimum wage job 5, 10, 15 years down the line?  You have car insurance on your car but don't expect to be in a accident right?
Protect everything you have..

But yeah if I were to ever get married and wanted children these 10 things I listed are what I base my initial search on.

The Average Woman of Today

The Average Woman of today...

The average woman of today is in the club every weekend

The average woman of today has 10-20 good guy friends

The average woman of today has 150 guys in her phone

The average woman of today dresses scandalous

The average woman of today has 1-2 abortions on her resume

The average woman of today has or had a STD

 The average woman of today cheats on her boyfriend

The average woman of today curses like a sailor

The average woman of today wears to much makeup

The average woman of today seeks attention whether negative or positive

The average woman of today is on dating sites getting 100 msgs a day

The average woman of today expects you to pay her bills

The average woman of today expects you to raise and accept her child out of wedlock

The average woman of today rarely brings any redeeming qualities to the table

The average woman of today is manipulative

The average woman of today is selfish

The average woman of today gets bored easily

The average woman of today is on facebook twitter instagram feeding her ego through likes and followers

The average woman of today would be stoned and called a harlot 3,000 years ago

The average woman of today rides the cock carousel

 The average woman of today gives it up on the first night

The average woman of today is unappreciative

The average woman of today has lewd photos or videos on the internet

The average woman of today follows hypergamy

The average woman of today files for divorce 70 percent of the time

The average woman of today looks for a starter husband

The average woman of today can't tell the difference between a guy who cares about them and a guy who just wants them for sex

The average woman of today is unfit to marry or even call a girlfriend.

Commitment

COMMITMENT

Commitment, ah the word commitment... a word that every women regardless of race or class longs for. No heterosexual woman truly wants to be single without a man in her life at a certain point.  But she told me she loves being single and is not looking for a relationship, ah padawan she’s telling you that because she is not interested in having a relationship with you.

 From the Top

Now to get into this matter of commitment some more…….any women can get sex for the most part whenever she desires, the thing is only a few women will actually get commitment and faithfulness. The thing a lot of women confuse is the  guys who just want to pump and dump from the guys who actually want to commit to them and grow a healthy relationship.  Look all over the world at women complaining about men who won’t commit, or how they slept with a guy early and he doesn’t call backL. What women don’t realize in this generation why would a man commit? Women out there are giving it up for free, women out there are so gullible you can string them along for however you want because you give them the tingles a nice Poindexter type guy won’t.

Let's get it brehs

I remember having a convo with a woman who was in her mid 30’s and she told me she doesn’t care about relationships  etc., she is fine just her and her child…….I was like that’s great but then why are you on a dating site?  That shut her up very quickly.

Rubs hands here it Comes

Now on the other side us men commitment is our VAGINA, what I mean by that it is our most precious thing as men we have. Notice how a lot of women are very protective of their vagina as in waiting for a while to sleep with a guy, to gain that exclusivity aka that commitment.  If you think about it sex in a relationship for the most part equals her giving up her prize ala vagina and you giving up your vagina ala commitment.  If a women gives up her vagina to early she may be viewed as a slut, and if a man gives up his commitment to early he should be viewed in the same light in my opinion.  Wait hold up your calling men sluts?  NO what I’m saying is the same way men have to work for sex, is the same way you should allow women to work for your commitment.  Women want commitment, men want sex. Now how many women out there are actually commitment worthy? well why don't you find out and Get Married Brehs.

Get Married Brehs

Get Married Brehs!

What does this mean?

This quote was forged in the mind of yours truly. After reading and scrolling through countless tales of women cheating on their husband, women filing for divorce, women plotting to murder their spouses etc........Get Married Brehs started to be the war cry of the free man.

Get married brehs should only be used in certain situations usually when a man is getting screwed by his wife,  James has been married to Mary for 20 years with 2 kids, she gets caught up in the fog and decides to leave.  This is when you can use Get Married Brehs.

So in ending this post

Get married brehs!

A Real Man Only Truly Loves Twice

WHAT NO WAY, JUST STOP YOU BITTER INDIVIDUAL!!!

Yes way, a man only truly loves twice in his lifetime and after that the love shown is not authentic and unfiltered, it becomes replicated and watered down .

The First Time

The first time a man will fall in love is probably around the age when he is 18-22, he's young and not that experienced in the game of life. He is guided by emotions more than logic, wearing his heart on his sleeve and uttering such phrases as “he's never felt this way before".

The "sparks" he feels, the first kiss, doing things he has never done before. And then one day he finally gazes into those big ol’ eyes and utters out that L word, I love you. Everything seems perfect, she's the most beautiful girl he has ever laid his eyes upon and the joy she brings brightens up his day.

He trusts her in every which way no suspicions, at all, He’s already thinking about what their kids will look like, getting married, retiring together and then poof. She gets a little distant, she needs space, he finds out she cheated, and he gets dumped. He’s heartbroken, no one will ever treat her how good I treated her he yells out, she will be back he screams.

The pain seems unbearable, why does love hurt so much he ponders?   Maybe it takes days, weeks, months or years but he finally gets over it. He tells himself that he won't make the same mistakes again. His guard is up this time, he’s emotionless. However after talking to folks and realizing that he has to let go off the past, he opens up and tries again. “Not all women are like that”, He tells himself.

The Second Time

He happens to come across a lady; he makes sure to take things slow this time. He keeps on reminding himself of the past pain, but realizes this one is different. It takes awhile, but he takes down his shield ever so slowly, he allows her into his heart, he trusts her without verification. She tells him that she will "never hurt him", that she "loves him". He says nothing yet; he knows that giving his commitment is the one power he still holds in this relationship.

Finally the L word comes out one day and he genuinely means it, he’s amazed at himself that he was able to say that word to another woman again. He feels so alive; he feels great..."hey I can love again".   Weeks go by; months go by, maybe even years.  Then he starts suspecting something is wrong, he digs a little deeper and finds out that he is getting played, his heart sinks down to the pit of his stomach, the familiar unforgiving pain from years past is back this time much worse.

The relationship is over, both times he has truly loved in his lifetime both ended horribly,  his shield is up now permanently, he may move it a few inches here or there when he starts to date again but it will never be fully down again.

He may date again, get engaged, even marry and have children. But the innocent, unfiltered, trust without verification love for a woman won't be replicated, the formula was used up, the Coca Cola love is gone and all that is left is segments of Great Value Coke Love not full unconditional true love.

Wow what a bitter story from a bitter man so pathetic, get a life.

Nah get married brehs!!!

My Introduction

My Introduction

When you don't abide by the archaic PC confroms as a male you will be labeled negatively.
 
Well I can hear the screams and vile words launched in my direction by those who don't agree with my stance.
 
Wow you must be ugly they say, you must never get laid that’s they say, your angry they say.

Let me break this down.
 
1. First off I'm not ANGRY. My doctor has said I have low blood pressure and my personality has never been a loud or boisterous type. If I was angry my vocabulary would consist of calling women such words like “whores, sluts, bitches, gold digging strumpets” but I've never done that. I've never lifted a finger, a fist, or thrown an object at a woman. I've never got in loud shouting match with veins popping or hell even wished ill will, so again please tell me how I'm angry?
 
2.  You must be ugly.

I've never been the one to brag or boast but the long list of women I have canoodled and cavorted with would lead me and others to come to the conclusion that I am not ugly.
 
3. You must not never get laid you virgin, dry penile scum.   

In all honestly I have never in my life begged, asked, or even seduced a woman to have sex, yet I've done well......  so yeah

Now that I have emasculate your false assumptions what more will you throw at me?